But it's human nature to look ! you argue back. Well YES it is human nature to see what is right in front of your eyes. However to go searching for others is not acceptable. People are all about upgrading everything they have. You buy a phone today and then a few months later you want a different one because the connection is better or it's prettier, slimmer, sleeker. Sure go ahead and buy that new phone. Because a phone has no emotion and isn't going to be heartbroken by being replaced. However your spouse will be. Your spouse is a human with real feelings., and supports you more than a phone ever will. They married you with a contract believing that you will stay with that contract till Death do you part.
So when you are talking to someone who seems appealing at the time, keep in mind you have someone that is depending on you to stay faithful to them. They gave you their heart and even their soul. They are trusting you with those that you will protect them and cherish them because those are the most precious gifts anyone can ever give.
There is no cause for alarm if you compliment another person. We all thrive on compliments. We all like our ego boosted. It's a nice friendly gesture. But when those compliments borderline on making jabs in comparison to the person you are married to then it becomes a problem. There should be no comparison between a person you love and a total stranger. If there is then you best check yourself and re-evaluate why you married them in the first place. If you can not recall then just let them go and dissolve the marriage because you are going to waste their time and continue breaking their hearts while entrapping yourself into a situation that makes everyone miserable.
When talking to this new interest keep in mind the person you are with. Do not make fun of them, degrade them but simply remark about them and this will keep the conversation a lot more simple. It allows this new person to know you are spoken for and also puts up a barrier allowing that new person to know you have limits. Never be dishonest and lead them on to thinking you are single.
Cheating is not just about touch. It's about words., it's about building a relation with someone and feeling emotion or an attachment. Be careful with your words, choose them wisely. If you can not control yourself -you do not need to be married.
Guys keep in mind this - every woman has the need of wanting a guy that pays attention to them. Of a man that listens and cares, shows concern for her heart and things she is going through. If you have a female friend that is leaning on you for support she is slowly reeling you in. By doing so it is taking your attention away from your wife and placing it where it should not be. Tell your female friend that you are sorry she is dealing with these things but continue to references about how great your wife is...this will make them back down.
This is how you defend your wife.
Women are conniving and the biggest ego boost of all for many is the ability to know they can steal a husband away from their wife. It makes them feel superior over another woman. Is this what you want? For your wife to lose her confidence? This will only cause more problems because now your wife not only feels unattractive, but she now feels betrayed and she is going to either grow angry or become reclusive.
Women also keep in mind men have desires different than ours. We are usually driven by emotion and are saps to romance. If you have a sweet talking friend don't take it out of context. And for heavens sake don't say things like "I wish my husband was more like you." this will only encourage them even more.
so what is friendly flirting ? the type you do not feel the need to have to hide from your spouse. The ones that are simple compliments and good comments about your spouse also thrown in there. The ones that if your spouse were to see., they would feel confident in knowing you have stood our ground and praised them as well.
If you have to hide it -------- It's cheating